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The Bachelor’s Natalie Sady on managing trolls and critics

The Bachelor’s Natalie Sady on managing trolls and critics


Yesterday we published a piece on how to manage trolls and critics online, in the hope that we may pass on valuable information to businesses and individuals on how to deal with cyber-bullying and the like.

Today we hear from The Bachelor Australia’s Natalie Sady on her experience and advice she wants us all to heed.

Don’t engage. Under no circumstances do you engage with these trolls and critics. As soon as you respond, you are handing them the power in the situation. If you respond, they see that they’re getting to you and often start trying to push things further and further. Situations can quickly get out of control. If you just ignore it, they eventually give up.

Block anyone bullying or attacking you. Most social media outlets give the user the ability to block people from seeing their profiles and contacting them. Use that option when you need to. Why allow these people to keep coming in to your world? If they are blocked, they can no longer reach you. If you are being bullied on a site where you are unable to block the person, shut that profile down.

Understand that it’s not about you. People who are happy within themselves don’t go around tearing other people down. When people feel the need to constantly critise people it is most often because of the insecurities they have within themselves. The comments may be about you, and directed at you, and they can be hard to brush off, but this is where your strong sense of self comes in. This is something much easier said than done, but if you can get to a point where you realise it isn’t about you, life will get a whole lot easier.

I found myself on the receiving end of online trolls and critics during my time on The Bachelor Australia 2013. It was incredibly hurtful, but I just kept going to the various websites and reading those comments.

After a couple of weeks I realised I had to stop doing that. Working in the entertainment industry I have always been judged on my appearance, and as a result I have developed a really thick skin, but not even my time in the industry was enough to prepare me for what was being said about me during the time the show was airing.

I eventually wrote my thoughts down and shared them on my Facebook fan page. Everyone was so incredibly supportive and the response I got was phenomenal. I didn’t engage with the critics directly, I just shared my feelings about how I was affected with my supporters. I was humbled by the reach my posts achieved. I was receiving emails from people living as far away as The United States and Canada!

I posted about my feelings because I wanted to start a conversation and bring awareness to a very important topic. As the social world evolves online, we seem to be losing our inhibitions and also our moral boundaries; we need to be aware that our online behaviour does make an impact on real people in a very real way, and some of that those ‘real life’ moral boundaries still need to exist.

About Natalie

Natalie Sady is a successful Melbourne model who has worked in the entertainment industry since she was a child. She has appeared in countless catalogues, television commercials and has always been popular on the catwalk. Natalie eventually made the move to television presenting. After being the most photographed woman at Flemington racecourse for a decade, it was a natural progression that she co-host Moonee Valley TV for the 2008-2009 Night Racing season. Most recently Natalie was a contestant on Channel Ten’s The Bachelor Australia. She may not have won Tim’s heart, but she did win over Australia with her frank and down-to-earth manner. Currently Natalie is focusing on her television pursuits, along with being very active in the Palm Oil cause and speaking out against domestic violence. nataliesady.com

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How to effectively manage trolls and critics online

How to effectively manage trolls and critics online

Following Charlotte Dawson’s tragic death in Australia and the massive #charlotteslaw push to better manage cyber-bullying and the like, we wanted to seek some advice on what everyone – individuals and businesses – can do to protect and combat against trolls and critics online.

To help us shed light on this topic, how to effectively manage trolls and critics online, we spoke to Leonie Smith, also known as The Cyber Safety Lady.

She explains: “Everyone using any social media platform should be sure that their personal profiles have the most secure privacy settings set up. Be sure to vet all friendship requests and keep your friendships real and to a minimum.


With the amount of successful internet scams increasing due to the ease with which scammers can steal our personal information, it is vital that we protect our private information online. Information such as our home address, age, our family members’ names, which utilities we pay for and more. One post complaining about your utility bill using the name of the institution, can result in a very realistic email that seems to come from that Tweeted company arriving in your inbox, and then one click and you might have a virus sent to your computer to gather even more information about you in order to be able to steal from you. By knowing who our friends are online, and by keeping our online profiles as private as possible we can at least make it a little more difficult for scammers to dupe us.

  • Check your privacy settings, and really drill down into them to make sure you really do have a private profile.
  • Always make sure you are posting personal updates privately.
  • If you post on a public platform be very careful what you say, think like a scammer!
  • Create secure passwords and have a different one for each platform.

Dealing with negative comments

If you have the responsibility of a company social media page or profile, dealing with negative comments might be something you come across sometimes, or perhaps regularly. Companies using social media need to respond to negative comments as they would if those comments were sent in an email to the company. Respond in a timely professional way. Invite the commenter to direct message your page or profile, to give your customer service employee their details so that they can help the customer away from the public platform. Be sure that the public sees you taking steps to remedy the complaint quickly and with tact.

If the comment is simply abusive and threatening, you can do the same or block the commenter. Do not respond to violent comments or abuse. Ignoring the abuse and deleting it will shut down the abuse very quickly. If your page or account is overwhelmed by abusive comments and blocking them is impossible, take the account offline for a time to re-group and come up with a response. It is always important to acknowledge public outrage if it is directed at one of your services. Ignoring public outrage can create a situation where the public go elsewhere to rage against you. Responding quickly with respect in a professional way, even to say that the concerns are being taken very seriously and will be address by such and such a time or date, (make sure you stick to that time) is vital to ward off a pile of complaints. Some companies need 24/7 moderation of their accounts in order to do this. Responding the next day may be too late!


For private personal online accounts, you might be able to respond in a similar fashion. If you receive spam, or a nasty comment, especially if you don’t know the commenter, take a screen shot of the abuse, to have proof if needed for further action, report the commenter to the social media platform’s administration through the available reporting tools, and then block the commenter. Do not ever retaliate or pass the comment on. Responding or sharing the comment online will only send out a signal for others to join in the abuse.

If you ever get into a situation on a social media platform where there is someone who you would like to keep connected with but who upsets you at times, there are tools you can use on some platforms where you don’t see their comments or posts but they don’t know you’ve blocked them.

The rule for dealing with personal online abuse is to screen shot (get evidence) the abuse to save a copy of it, you might need to show authorities or send to the admin of the site, block the user, report them using the tools and then gain support. Tell a friend if it is particularly upsetting.

I have outlined how to use some of those tools in my posts on thecybersafetylady.com.au. Instructions on how to block and report and to screen shot online abuse through some of the more popular social media networks is available in my Keeping Kids Safe Online cyber safety book, available from thecybersafetylady.com.au/keepingkidssafeonline.”


How to manage trolls and critics: more expert advice to consider 

“A troll is someone who deliberately evokes anger from others. They often get pleasure and satisfaction from ‘trolling’. There’s two good lessons you can pick from the definition of trolls to handle trolls. The first is to not get angry. Secondly, don’t label someone in your mind as a troll. A troll is someone who deliberately does something to evoke anger from others. It may not be deliberate. Conflict management is a matter of perception – opening your mind.” -Joshua Uebergang, director of Tower of Power

“As a putatively cynical private investigator I’m not in the habit of quoting from the Bible but turning the other cheek is undoubtedly the best way to deal with most online attacks. If you grew up before the advent of the internet, you know there’s a life offline so if someone is targeting you personally, go for a walk and smell the flowers. If you are part of the generation that has only known computers, turn off your machine and go ask your grandfather how to fly a kite or build a go-kart.

In the case of businesses that are subject to serious online campaigns or defamation, don’t do anything before seeking advice from a social media expert, a lawyer or a private investigator. Removing the content may make the troll even angrier and may interfere with your chance to identify him or her and stop the action for good.” -Lachlan Jarvis, Private Investigator, Lyonswood Investigations and Forensic Group


If you found this helpful, keep an eye out for part two – we hear from The Bachelor Australia’s Natalie Sady on her experience with trolling and her advice on dealing with it.   

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